February 10, 2024

Benefits of marriage counseling

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  • Improving Communication 
  • Having a Better of Understanding of Each Other
  • Increasing Intimacy
  • Problem Solving Together
  • Improving Conflict Resolution 
  • Building Trust
  • Strengthening the Marriage 
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Improving Communication 

One benefit of marriage counseling is improving communication. Communication is an essential part of having a successful marriage. When couples have good communication, it allows them to share their thoughts and feelings with each other, have a better understanding of each others wants and needs, and helps them effectively resolve conflict. Marriage counseling help couples learn to communicate more effectively so they can have productive conversations. Marriage counselors help couples learn to communicate clearly, really listen to what each other is saying, and develop a way of communicating where partners can feel understood. As communication improves, couples are able to understand each others perspectives, resolve problems, and feel more connected as a result. 

Having a Better Understanding of Each Other

Another benefit of marriage counseling is that couples have a better understanding of each other. They have a better understanding of each other’s needs, wants, desires, and perspectives. Many couples have differing personalities, styles of communication, ways of expressing and showing love, as well as general differences in quirks and preferences. A lack of understanding these differences can create conflict. However, when couples can communicate about their differences and understand each others perspectives, they can strengthen the marriage relationship. Couples counselors help couples explore their needs and preferences, and learn how to meet each other needs. This leads to a stronger and deeper connection for the couple. 

Increasing Intimacy 

Increasing intimacy and emotional connections is another benefit of marriage counseling. This is an important aspect of a marriage because many couples divorce due to growing distant and drifting apart. This distance and disconnection can lead to loneliness and increased dissatisfaction with the marriage. Marriage counselors help couples figure out what is causing the disconnection and work towards rebuilding the intimacy and emotional connection in the relationship again. This may involved exercises to help couples build emotional closeness as well as physical closeness in order to help strength the relationship and improve the intimacy in the marriage. 

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Problem Solving Together

Effective problem solving is essential for marriages because every marriage faces challenges. For couples who find this challenging, or who find themselves stuck on opposite sides of an issue, marriage counseling can help the couple find a compromise.  Marriage counselors help couples identify root causes to problems and find solutions. They may also teach specific skills and techniques for couples to practice. By helping couples develop problem solving skills, the couple can learn to better navigate challenges together. The couple will practice these skills in the safe environment of the marriage counseling office until that can successfully use the skills at home.  

Improving Conflict Resolution 

Improving a couples conflict resolution skills is another benefit of marriage counseling. While conflict is a natural part of relationships, how you handle it can determine whether your relationship lasts for the long haul or ends in divorce. Marriage counseling helps couples learn to resolve conflicts by teaching them skills such as active listing, compromise, and negotiation. Learning these skills helps couples resolve conflict and prevent problems from becoming bigger issues. 

Building Trust

Marriage counseling can help couple build or re-build trust. Since trust is the foundation of a healthy relationship, when it’s broken it can have a devastating impact on the relationship. Re-building trust is hard; but marriage counseling can help couples along the journey of rebuilding trust. Marriage counselor help couples figure out what led to the trust being broken and work towards rebuilding that trust over time. While it can be a challenging process, couples who stay together after trust has been broken are often able to repair and restore their relationship with the help of a trained marriage counselor. 

Strengthening the Marriage

Relationships are like plants–they need to be watered and take care up to continue to grow and flourish. The ultimate benefit of marriage counseling is helping your relationship continue to grow and flourish. By improving communication, mutual understanding, and enhancing problem solving and conflict resolution skills, couples can develop stringer relationships that are prepared to last a lifetime. Marriage counseling helps give couples the tools they  needs to build healthy relationship habits in order to successfully navigate challenges together. 

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Elizabeth Polinsky Counseling provides online marriage counseling, as well as weekend-long Marriage Intensives, throughout the states of Virginia, South Carolina, Arkansas, and Nevada. Click the button below to schedule a complimentary consult. 

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    Elizabeth Polinsky is a Certified Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist (EFT) providing EFT marriage counseling in the states of Virginia, Maryland, North Carolina, South Carolina, Arkansas, and Nevada. She also provides EFT training and supervision to therapists looking to become certified in EFT Couple Therapy. As a military spouse, she has a special passion for working with military and veteran couples, and is also the host of The Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military Relationships.


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